Okonkwo ignores the "female" virtues because he never shows emotion. He never acts like he cares because he think if he cares he will be weak. The one part that stands out to me is when he kills Ikemefuna. People tell him that he doesn't have to because of his strong bond with Ikemefuna, but he does anyway. Ikemefuna takes comfort in the fact that Okonkwo is there because he thinks that Okonkwo won't let anything happen to him. Even more than just having a part in the killing he does the actual killing. He beats his wives and kids all the time, he even tried to shoot his wife. When he heard of the man who acutally loved his wife he thought it was so weird and he thought the man was weak. He is rude and full of himself. He thinks the most important thing about people is being strong and manly. When his son isn't manly enough he beats him. The whole book is filled with stories of him trying to be manly and he thinks manly is completely opposite of the female virtues. This affects his life because one, he lives with the guilt of killig his son, and he can't show emotion. He holds everything inside and that's not good. A lot of people fear him because he is such a jerk.